If you wanna get close as possible for a lover couple …

You better know the details of what makes her feel good; in communication, in attitude, in a day, in an evening, mentally, emotionally, and yes all the way down to physically as well. And All Of It!, in the most intamate ways you can get to know. And they may always vary. Fluctuate in relevance~effectiveness.

Once you have this as focus~intent going on properly, then eventually you will even be good at feeling quite naturally, when what of all best ways you know of with her, will work best with her in this moment.

If you really wanna do your thing to be with someone.

Know your woman!

…better than anyone else!

From her very breath you should have a clue of how she feels.

If you can’t make her speak like that about herself, to help you reveal the best ways with her, then you can show your interest in this subjects to her mom and/or grandma. Speaking with girlfriends will just confuse everything. They could if anything, only be good for the most intim-intimeate subjects. But of course, as to every rule, there is ecxeptions to this one also.