Usually or originally, Man+Woman=PresciousLove and/or PresciousNewLife. But since ages that has changed a bit. And while I know that most of us humans are living so far apart from our true pure selves, which means rather a bit and/or even very lost, varying from time to time and from person to person, this does not exactly make our relationships divine. 

Whenever I encounter a man in my intimate space, it just becomes more clear what I really want and what I really don’t want as well. 

So I guess that means, so far not good enough, as it should feel like all I really do want. Y nada mas. 

I want propper connection ~ real friendship. I want a man who is into all of me ~ who loves my mind, my ideas, my ways of doing and being, which has to be naturally mutual. I want someone who is sincerely and genuinely interested, who will passionately contemplate and dream with me regarding anything. 

I want someone who is good at sensing how to get me out of my head when it happens to be full of bad-feeling thoughts. 

Those ways in which we either have a meal, or we have a drink, or we have a cigarette, and so on. I want someone who does not have sex, but who sincerely makes unique love with me everytime-in-one-way-or-another, rather that all the time. 

Quality over quantity is what things that last are made of. 

That is something to ponder. 

Why do you think that way-beyond-most relationships don’t last!? 

HELLO!? As if any healthy/sane one of us would want to be treated insensitively ~ used, just consumed like a by-standing product, like some lifeless thing. 

I want someone who is good at sensing how to get me out of my head when it happens to be full of bad-feeling thoughts. 

I want someone who does not have sex, but who is lovemakingWithMe. 

Sensitive, real, pure, open, because life is too short for anything else but folowing your own paths, how they happen to be unfolding. 

Sex is so brutal in so many different ways. While making love is something where you naturally get drawn in to this highly sensitive state of being, in which you naturally tune into sensing the other person so, that with any move you make, and with any touching you do, you are experiencing their reacting responses to it, which become your natural guide in feeling them intensely, getting high on that together. 

Touching becomes rather explorative, because we are physical organic beings, who feel slightly different all the time, as we keep eveloping, developing and growing. There is nothing worse to the life of your lovemaking, than insensitively (zombie robotically) just doing shit you saw in porn movies (~the industrialized versions ~ the indoctrinations made to disconnect us) and/or just doing the same old same moves everytime, instead of intimately listening with the whole spirit of you, using your highest sensing ability. 

You adore this body, which is a person. ….this body which is a human like another you. You adore this other YOU, this extended part of yourself, you adore this living being, who you are so lucky to have with you. But more than anything in all of this, you love this being more than it’s body. 

If you don’t feel admiration for this other person, including a deeper connection and deeper respect and caring  ~ all of which gives you feelings that somehow are generating a possitive attitude in you, then you are obviously not having anything intimate with this person, if you are all healthy ~ sane. 

But for too many people it is a very numb, emotionless ~ sensitivity-free subject of just having sex. Just having any willing body to jerk you off n spill open the door to your own universe, at your highly most sensitive ~ most fragile state of being, that being the most open state possible in human physical interaction, on the most intimate level. 

Swing clubs and prostitution itself come from those with that weird essense in their being going on, being sort of rather a numbness-breed type of being able to perceive (so little that it makes you numb, which makes your actions and/or behaviour coldhearted, with something otherwise so sacred and pure(~Complete Openness) in it’s own nature. 

In the average couple which aren’t lasting very well or not at all, it is always at least one of them who starts closing up somehow, in one way or another. And when you dig in it, you always find that they have been injured/hurt/dissapointed by the other one. Which has usually of course just not been communicated, understood and agreed uppon, and (and in many cases, thereby also actively instead of verbally) apologized. ~ some intelligent partnership of mutual/soulful/pure good caring friendship missing in that, so very obviously even to a child’s speachless senses. 

We all close up when we feel from the perception of where we are standing in our being, feeling there is no unconditional love there with us, through thick and thing, through good times and bad times, always honoring each other ect etc and what not. 

We have all grown to deny how sensitive we really are. It is called having become, more or less numb. 

Which makes too many people become those cold consumers (some even manipulators and control freaks as well, which are usually the kind or mean spoiled ones). 

For a few, it is just a phase in respose to bad/peace disturbing times or experiences. But sometimes it can be “just” drugs making some people sort of numb~cold~dum/mean. 

Thank You for reading 

in most cases having come this far it means having been listening/hearing. 

If you have any questions, pro’s and con’s, on anything at all? 

….then feel free to share below. …perhaps you end up opening horizons/maybe adding more aspects ~ through different experiences ~ which create different perceptions, all the time.