It seems that it should be natural for every being, to be able to say…

No-one can tell me when to feel what. No-one can command the nature of feeling the attraction between two like clockwork. Unless perhaps you aim for after or even during a woman’s period, and then still! Everybody ticks a bit differently, and the hormone “picture” varies from person to person as well, yet at the same time different human connection combinations of two, naruraly generate different levels of sexual energies.

Many different things can be true all at the same time. Also that a sensible woman might have the nature to only feel sexual with a man, when the whole connection just feels emotionally safe, good and sensitive enough. …and when it gets to it, then he at least more or less knows what he’s doing, is sensitive to your vague/gentle responses and reactions, while at the same time everything doesn’t have to lead to sex. The feeling of wanting someone in itself also holds some treasures. And it’s right when sex is not the reason why you want to be close and even cuddly in general.
Anything else is just “tv education”, or of course, much too convenient constellation. 

Nothing is constant, and the sexual side of us is a sensitive subject, the most personally intimate of our physical being selves. Yet the closeness with another at this level, can feel so soulful, and sometimes some of it can keep you elevated for days and weeks (and even further, it all depends).
             And as so many different things are true,  as crazy as it is, some people get these side effect from the media influence, that they behave unnatural in sex, and some even behave like they are doing some performance.
Instead of just melting together or so. I wanna relax let my eyes close and follow the feeling of every touch n move, feel the intention of making it good as the female energy is  surrendering to the wanting male.

My feelings and experiences, both of my own and all conversations throughout life, seem to say, Approximately, that sex is not something we should be expecting of each other as such, but rather sort of be aware that this honour exists, that sex is rather some nice side-effects of a deep felt connection and feelings of understanding and respect between two. When the matching feeling sensitivities meet, it can last forever if it isn’t milked by convenience, instead of just felt with pure human sensitivity. And basing a relationship on sex, doesn’t seem to let it be authentic, and thereby usually neither lasting.

The thing is, that if the feeling isn’t authentic, then there’s no good feeling from it, ans surely there is no high. So one could easily say, rather quality then quantity. But which still doesn’t mean that these things don’t naturally fluctuate on their own.
           The happiest couples that lasted their whole lifetime, they didn’t depent on how much sex they had or how often. They went through times like this and times like that, feeling like family and best friends, like partners in life, like world family. Everything fluctuates. Just like gravity, just like waves, just like the seasons can’t be set to a real specific day exactly. Nothing blooms ongoingly. Everything has its cycles and sensitivity to circumstances, internal as well as external world of circumstances of most any being, in all their different ways.
Feeling admired, loved, heard, thought of, understood, wanted around, wanted close, such things are what can let attraction bloom in a sexual sense. It even sounds very sane and healthy then. Very harmonious and free, simply natural.